SOOOOO the tech came out today...(wish i didnt have a job at that time)
Anyway after he fiddled around, he said it was the router...
So i told my wife to let me chat with him (she had called me)
We talked, and concluded (not that it couldnt be AN issue) that the router couldnt make the modem reset its self, and that the problem was my upstream...
They did in fact fix a line today up the road...looking at my levels they are 38-42 range and down stream power is now down to 0, where it was 3-5 range...
So here the cookie thing.....took forever to get the router to see the modem

I could access the control panel, but kept say disconnected.....unplugged it, for a good 5 minutes, and decided to call comcast to see if they could "see" my router....yea that was a joke, but while i was on the phone and plugging it in to see if they could see it.....the router decided to grab the Ip from comcast....
I dont even know why that happened for the day....
But heres to hoping its fixed, and no more issues.....
any ideas as to why the router was acting like it couldnt "see" the modem???