I tried setting up the Access Point through the downstairs router and every thing got hosed.
Don't worry - that happens to the best of us!
You can't connect two routers together directly. There needs to be only one router on your network giving out IP addresses and routing traffic (this includes internet traffic on the WAN port - therefore in your case, the upstairs Netgear device must take the role of router). Why can't we just connect two routers together? Think of an analogy: if you have two central sorting offices working to their own conflicting sets of addresses for the same buildings, mail is going to get lost all over the place.
So, we dont want the downstairs Netgear device to carry out these routing functions. Instead, we want it to just act as a single point remote from the router through which multiple wireless and wired devices can access the network. What do we call such a device? Yep, an access point. In our analogy, the access point is just a sub-office which all the local mail for a town passes through.
What does that mean for you? Well, out of the box, your two Netgear routers function as....yep, routers. Luckily, it is dead simple to configure your downstairs Netgear device to function as an access point instead.
- Physically disconnect the two routers from each other.
- Do a hard reset of the downstairs Netgear device. Plug in a computer, and in the Netgear homepage the settings we need are usually under Advanced>Lan Setup. Deselect "Use Router as DHCP Server" - this stops the device giving out IP addresses. Change the IP Address at the top of the page to 192.168.0.2 - this gives the device this static IP. Leave the IP Subnet Mask at 255.255.255.0. Under Advanced>UPnP, deselect "Turn UPnP On". Save the settings - this device can now function as an access point.
- Do a hard reset of the upstairs Netgear device, and plug in a computer. Under the same LAN settings, check that the Router IP Address at the top of the page is 192.168.0.1, and the IP Subnet Mask is 255.255.255.0. Check that the option "Use Router as DHCP Server" is selected. These settings allow the device to function as a router and work with our downstairs access point. Change the starting IP Address to 192.168.0.10 and the ending IP Address to 192.168.0.240. We must do this because any devices with a static IP such as our access point downstairs must have addresses outside of this DHCP pool.
- Switch both Netgear devices off then on. Wait a good few minutes for them to boot up fully. Only then connect them with a cable (via MoCA in your case). You must follow this procedure exactly if ever you reboot or switch off either or both of the Netgear devices. If you don't, and for example leave the cable connected, they might not function, or even worse, they might appear to function, but performance will be slow.
The MoCA and wired performance should now be optimised. The wireless performance may still be suffering interference from outside equipment, or from the other Netgear device, however. You may need to switch wireless off on one of the devices, and try checking/changing the wireless channels.