Good, you'll need separate SSIDs without Smart Connect. And no, you cannot further separate them across AiMesh nodes.... the router SSIDs extend to the nodes.
You went the wrong direction on the RSSI threshold change. As a wireless client roams away from a signal, the signal becomes weaker or more negative. If you want that client to roam to the next node/signal sooner, then you need to set the RSSI threshold for that band to be less negative, not more negative. Then, the client will be booted off the signal sooner and will hopefully connect to the next node/signal.
OE