I had the opportunity to tinker with both a UDM Pro and SE for several days, along with some AC and U6 Pro APs.
Hands down the user interface is cool, and the device adoption process for APs and switches was easy-peasy.
But that was the end of my satisfaction and amazement.
UDMs do not hold a candle to Asus-Merlin's scripting, configuration and scheduling. Even Asus OEM firmware has more options for configuration at multiple levels than the UDMs.
On the Ubiqitis, I could not reliably set up DNS redirection and blocking. Tried DNAT, masquerading, firewall blocking, even SSHing to manually add iptables rules - GARBAGE.
OpenVPN server setup is terrible (can't just create/import keys). No cron jobs to send curl updates to DNS & DDNS services. Barely any iptables or dnsmasq functionality, so no way to push custom DNS to individual devices or blocks of devices, or set up special routing rules, or block swaths of IPs (DoH, DoT, etc) from a text file. My old ER-X had more capability than these newer UDMs.
Tailscale sideload borks the whole unit if you mess up the initial "tailscale up" command - like, wipe and reset.
Right now, I am splitting the difference to see how at least the APs perform: disconnected/abandoned the UDMs, and went back to my ASUS-RT-AX88U-Pro with 3006 Merlin as the firewall, router and DHCP server but installed the Unifi software controller.
1) It sucks that the APs can't be fully configured without Unify.
2) Using Unify, I was able to propagate my native WiFi networks and it work's just like another Asus AP/AiMesh.
3) Using Unify, I was able to propagate my guest network to the same VLAN as the ASUS, so that worked fine also including the network segmentation and custom DNS filters for that network - the RT-AX88U-Pro worked perfect as the main router.
The only setup that I see competing with ASUS-Merlin functionality is maybe a Mikrotik or OpnSense setup. Everyone should be thankful to
@RMerlin and all the addon coders for making these consumer level routers superior to cloud-centric, dumbed down Ubiquiti, Cisco/Meraki, and PaloAlto gear.
My $0.03.