Geez. It's definitely me I guess.
After fighting this bidirectional stuff with stock firmware for a good couple / three months, I had the bidirectional working for things like pc's and synology devices on both subnets.
I even had mobile devices working from the same device to one subnet, but not the other..
In trying to solve that (i.e., make it work to both subnets with separate wireguard tunnels), and then also make it where I could see both subnets from either of those two tunnels, things just got more and more weird.
I was completely befuddled by the references to client / server on both sides of a peer connection, etc...
Each time I seemed to get it working on one front, it would stop on another (because I'm sure I had allowedIP errors and such conflicting with each other).
So having seen this thread, I said what the heck, lemme jump to Merlin- I used it once before a while back and it adds some nice features anyway.
So then seeing philotes and dardar and all the others continue to pile on with success, I felt more and more confident.
And yet here I am, having completely started from scratch and followed both dardar and philotes posts (philote's was easiest for me to translate, I thought), where I can see a connection being made (at least bytes coming back and forth), but can't for the life of me ping the router on the server side.
I've only been able to openvpn back into the server side with a standalone laptop (staying away from the router openvpn stuff, as I'm sure I'd get tangled up too!).
So I guess it's me. This has been incredibly frustrating.
I guess I'll start over again and try to mimic you successful folks.
I have to say that I was a little happy to read other people were wrestling with the GUI in the stock, as I also found it quite confusing.
But now you guys have all succeeded and I have completely failed backwards again and again.
Oh well. I guess this has turned into a pathetic confession of my pathetic condition, ha!
But thanks to all of you for sharing all the great details.
I am completely confused as to why I can't seem to replicate one of now multiple examples and get the same outcome.
Anyway- have a great day.